(In yesterday’s installment, I recounted one of my most abysmal performances as a pastoral counselor. Troy, a congregant, had come to see me with an incredible mountain of problems including job loss, cancer, his wife’s infidelity, and parenting challenges, all raining down on him at once.
When we left our story, the pastor was wringing his hands in despair, searching and praying for the right word for Troy’s situation…)
Not wanting too many more silent seconds to pass between us, I gave Troy my most sincere, pastoral look, reached out and confidently placed my hand on his left shoulder and said – with an air of authority that was manufactured out of thin air – “Troy… the thing to remember at times like this is just what it says in the Bible: ‘This too shall pass.’”
And then, to add an extra measure of sincerity to the drivel I had just dispensed, I clapped him on the shoulder and nodded.
The reaction I fully expected to receive (and probably should have received) from Troy was something like, “What? Are you seriously kidding me? ‘This too shall pass??’ I could have pulled a random fortune cookie out of a jar and gotten something better than that drivel!”
But, to his everlasting credit, Troy just nodded, thanked me for my time, and stood up to leave.
After that it took me several minutes to compose myself. I was stunned at the level of absolute ineptitude I had displayed in my conversation with Troy. I honestly pondered the possibility of searching for a new line of work… on the spot. Clearly that “call to ministry” I thought I had heard was a wrong number.
Fast-forward six months. I have not heard from Troy or heard about him. I had maybe seen him at church one time in passing since our meeting. And I may or may not have pretended to drop something on the floor when he passed… just to avoid making eye contact.
And then one night it happened… there was an event at church for parents and their children. I was on duty to greet folks as they came in and help them find their way around. And here came Troy… with his two children in tow.
“OK,” I said to myself. “Nothing to do but to step up, look him in the eye and face the music. It might even be that he has wiped any memory of my face and name from his mind… if I’m lucky.”
So, I bucked up… walked up to Troy… stuck out my hand and said, “Hi there, Troy. It’s been a while since we talked. How are things with you anyway?” I tried not to telegraph the fact that I was positioning myself to deflect a punch from his right hand I was reaching out to shake it.
“Pastor Brown!” he said… in a loud, overly enthusiastic voice. (Drat! He recognized me!) And then he went on, “Hey, do you remember that time last fall when we met in your office? You know, when I was in such a messed-up situation and I came to see you?”
“Yeah… sure,” I said… playing along. “I’ve been wondering how things are going for you now. That sure was a bad time for you, wasn’t it?”
He said, “Boy, it sure was. Hey… do you remember the advice you gave me? When you told me ‘this too shall pass’?”
I was getting ready to defend myself, explaining I had been engaged in a spiritual fast the day we met and was clearly delirious from hunger when he interrupted me, grabbed my hand and pumped it vigorously saying,“Man, I can’t thank you enough. That was EXACTLY what I needed to hear at that moment. It helped me take a step back from the funk I was in and just take a breath.
“And you know what? Things are really getting better. I got a new job, so we changed schools and got my daughter away from those bullies… my wife married her boyfriend and I am getting good treatments for my melanoma.”
“But I just really wanted to thank you for helping me get through that. I don’t know what I would have done without you.”
And so, we shook hands, I thanked Troy for his kind words, and we went our separate ways.
At the time I offered it, “This too shall pass,” was a trite, unthinking response that was thoroughly unresponsive to the depth of Troy’s dilemma. I have since checked and found it is also advice that can be found nowhere in the Bible.
What I saw though in that six-month reunion was the power of the Holy Spirit to take the very worst of my efforts and transform it into something powerful and healing.
Right now, “This too shall pass” feels like a trite, almost cruel platitude in the midst of the current pandemic. Sure, it will pass, but who knows when it will pass? Who knows how many lives will be lost in the process? Who knows the long-lasting damage that will be done to our economy by this extended shut-down?
“This too shall pass” is not particularly biblical or earth-shaking as advice goes. But it is true. There WILL be a day in the future when sports resume, when there are stories on the news besides the daily COVID-19 death toll, when kids are back in school, when concerts happen again, and when folks – maybe more than before the pandemic – gather again in church.
No, “This too shall pass” may not be particularly profound.
But somehow my anxious heart – like Troy’s – finds great peace and comfort in knowing it is true.
Praise God!
Kudos to you for your honesty! Another (me, for instance) might never have bothered checking….
I recently read a story about a sad person who read a message and cheered up, and a happy person who read the same message and looked disappointed. As you can guess, the message was “this too shall pass.”
It doesn’t surprise me that the Holy Spirit can use our feeble attempts. I have had people say to me, “I’ll never forget when you said _______,” and I have no recollection of what I had allegedly said.
Bottom line: IT’S ALL GOD.
Amen! I have had people actually quote a line from a sermon I preached that they said it, “…changed my life.” And I have consulted the manuscript and discovered there was no such line. God is GOOD!
When I lost my first sister to BC, Yolanda Adams’ song “This Too Shall Pass,” stayed on repeat for a while–even though there’s that one line that is a misinterpretation of scripture. But I think–even though the words themselves aren’t scriptural, the sentiment certainly is.
[the words “this too shall pass.”