A couple of years ago, I was driving from Point A to Point B, listening to the radio. As is usually the case, my car radio was tuned to the local National Public Radio (NPR) affiliate.

The host of the show was interviewing a young musician named Josiah Wise who performs under the name, serpentwithfeet. His musical style is described as “neo-soul,” whatever that means. (As an aside, that is one of the reasons I enjoy listening to NPR so much; they put me in touch with people I might never seek out on my own.)
As Mr. Wise told his story, he talked about his upbringing in the church, and his early interest in classical music. Many of his friends told him that he had an opera-quality voice and should pursue music education at the conservatory.
The point in the interview when my ears really perked up was when Wise talked about applying to multiple conservatories and receiving rejection after rejection.
Those rejections ultimately led him to exploring his own unique musical style and put him on the path to what has now become a very successful musical career. [In the interest of full disclosure, I have not heard Wise perform. But he has been on Late Night with Jimmy Fallon, so he’s clearly no slouch.]
When asked how he felt as he was hearing “NO” after “NO” after “NO,” in response to his applications, Wise (appropriately named, as it turns out) said this, “I learned to love NO. Because NO is where the nutrients are.”
Take a minute with that. Let it percolate. Connect it with your own experience.
Think back on the times in your life when you have resolutely pointed yourself in a particular direction – full of vinegar and conviction – and then run smack-dab into a brick wall of NO!
What did you do? How did it affect you?
In my case, one of the biggest “NO’s” I ever received came in the form of the failure of the small advertising and public relations firm I had started. I never could find the sweet spot between actually DOING the business and going out and FINDING NEW business. And so, after five years, I had to face the facts and shut the doors.
That gigantic NO then led me to God’s YES of seminary and a life in ministry.
When we dive into it, we find that the Bible is chock full of stories of God’s people encountering life-shattering NO’s: the Great Flood, the fall of the Tower of Babel, the enslavement of the Israelites, droughts, plagues of locusts, suffering, disease, pestilence, crucifixion, and death.
And as we see in each of those stories, each of those NO’s produced a rich field of nutrients that nourished astounding New Beginnings.
A new world… a new people… a new land… a new destiny.
But I have to admit… I am not sure I have EVER heard a “NO” in my life, smiled, and thought, “YUM! More nutrients!” I still regularly catch myself wanting MY plans to succeed… wanting MY blueprint of the future to triumph.
Someday I hope to be as wise as a serpentwithfeet… finding nourishment in the NO.
Until then, I guess I will just keep listening and learning.
Abundant blessings;
I’m right with you in not being enthused about the NO’s in life, and needing to listen, learn, and look for the nourishment in the NO. Great wisdom here, Russell. (And well-written too!)
Thank you so much. You are very kind.
I’ve had 8 seasons of “no” career wise. There are nutrients in the “no” if one takes them in. now freshly retired and looking for a new “Yes”
God has something, I have found that out.
Absolutely! You will find God’s YES. Maybe not as soon as you’d like, but you will find it.