One of the people in this house (not naming names) likes to do things RIGHT NOW! Action is his (or her) middle name.
The other one likes to sit with it a bit… let it marinate… wait for additional information to materialize before leaping into action. He (or she) is studious and thoughtful.
“Do it before you forget about it!” argues A. “No time like the present.”
“What’s the rush?” B asks calmly. “We might not have considered all the angles.”
“Do you want to order pizza tonight?” B asks idly.
“Sure,” A replies. “Let me pull up the Krazy Karl’s menu and get our order started. Do you want the combo again?”
“Hang on… hang on. That’s just my first thought. No need to jump right on it. Let’s see… what are some other options?” comes the languid reply from B.
Does this dynamic sound at all familiar to you?
A dispassionate sociologist might observe this interesting blend of personalities and see a healthy tension… one that allows both action and circumspection to vie for supremacy, creating a beneficial blend.
The people living in the middle of that dynamic might see it as something a lot more discordant… a source of friction and annoyance.
The question we all want answered is… so who is right? Is it better to be the Action Jackson person? Or is the Studious Stewart superior?
Both approaches, of course, have their distinct downsides. Leaping before you look can result in mis-steps, miscalculations, and mistakes. Spending too much time in probing, in-depth analysis can cause you to miss the moment altogether.
As the Bible so wisely tells us, the real answer is, “Both.” The Teacher (and much later, Roger McGuinn and the Byrds) told us, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal… (Ecclesiastes 3:1-3, NRSV).
But instead of “both,” maybe the real answer is, “Sometimes it’s one, and at other times, it’s the other.”
Which makes me wonder: would that be a preferable answer to other dichotomies we face in life? In this highly fraught moment of mid-January 2021, my thoughts naturally skew in the political direction.
As we look on from the cheap seats, we see the advocates of conservatism insisting that, “The conservative approach is the only valid approach to governing,” while liberals and progressives loudly and emphatically assert exactly the opposite.
What if sometimes it was one and at other times it was the other? What if we were to become a people less concerned with defending our TRIBE and more concerned with defending the TRUTH? What if there was a way for us to lift our eyes above the immediacies of our narrow, self-interested cost/benefit analyses and to instead think in terms of the WIDER well-being of the WIDER human race?
What if?
Well, as it turns out, dear friend, there IS a way. And that way is GOD’S way.
King Solomon in his legendary wisdom writes, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6, NRSV).
What would happen if we all did exactly that?
I’m not sure it would resolve a lot of disputes about what to have for dinner, or where to go on vacation (that is, when we get to go on vacation again), but it would certainly help us figure out where we go from here as a society.
And you know what? I think that would be a pretty good place to start.
Abundant blessings;
Haha the dynamics in my house are exactly like that. I want to make decisions in the moment and my hubby wants to consider all angles. 😂
Thank you! I was afraid my wife and I were the only ones like that. 😉