“Hey… is that a tattoo?”
The question caught me off guard for a moment. I was sitting there in my car, arm extended, offering my credit card to the woman in the cute little tollbooth there at the front end of the car wash.
“Why yes… yes, it is,” I answered, finally remembering I did, in fact, have a tattoo on my left forearm.
Even though she didn’t ask me to, I went on to elaborate: “You probably can’t see it from your angle, but these are my father’s initials… a lower case “g” and a lower case “b” connected together, with a cross there at the top.”
Glancing in my rearview mirror to verify that there really weren’t too many folks in line behind me, I elaborated on my elaboration… “This is in memory of my dad. His name is George Brown and he was a pastor… so we added the cross on top there.”
“Very nice,” she said with a smile as she handed me my credit card receipt. “Sign here.”
Had I been the only one in line at that moment I would have gone on to explain that dad died last year… two days after his 90thbirthday. I would have added that my four siblings and I all got this identical tattoo less than a month before his death and were able to assemble at his bedside there in Everett, Washington and show him what we had done.
I would have also told her that at the moment of the Big Reveal, my ever-eloquent younger brother said something touching like, “Dad, throughout your life, you have made a permanent impression on each of us, so we decided to make another permanent impression as a way of honoring and remembering you.”
I would have told her that we then each shed a tear and hugged him close.
I would have also gone on to explain that the tattoo is on my left, inside forearm because that is the same side as my heart. It is also there so that I can look down and see it clearly when I am trying to play something on the guitar.
After all, my dad is the one who first inspired my love of music.
Back when I was a young man in my late 50s, I said somewhat whimsically one day, “You know… when I turn 60, I’m going to get a tattoo.”
Of what I had no idea. But I knew it had to be something significant… meaningful… thought-provoking.
That birthday came and went and I remained inkless. I am sure that was mostly because my tattoo had not yet revealed itself to me. But I knew one day it would.
So I waited.
I have to admit; until this moment of inspiration came, I really didn’t “get” tattoos. I was not necessarily opposed to them. In fact, I am the guy who would regularly comment on the ink of the person in front of me in the grocery checkout line.
It was just that I could never “do the math” required to fathom why a person would endure the pain and expense involved to put permanent artwork on their skin.
But then the car wash cashier helped me see how my tattoo could be a portal…
… to a deeper meaning,
… to a cherished memory,
… to an opportunity to connect with a stranger.
And while my study of Christian scripture fails to turn up any evidence of Jesus having any ink (WWJT?), or any policy on those who do, he DOES regularly seem to reveal himself as a fan of things like LOVE, deep meaning, and connection with others.
So… what do you think?
- Are you tattooed? If so, what themes/images are most important to you?
- Are you opposed to tattoos? Why?
- If you do not have one today, do you think you might ever? Why or why not?
- If not via the tattoo route, what will you do today to promote meaning, memory, and connection in your life?
What a lovely way to honor you dad, very touching. I too have a tattoo on my ankle, cross and a fish inside a heart. I cherish this also.
Well, it’s not likely that I will acquire a tattoo, but you never know what 100 may bring. A nice read. Thanks. Your Russellings are always interesting.
Thanks,
Warren
Thank you, my friend. I think a tattoo would be the PERFECT way to celebrate your 100th birthday!
Got to be one of the most meaningful tats ever!