My wife, Joan, is a big fan of “doing things for a reason.”
And there is always a good, solid reason for the things she does.
When cooking her world-famous pasta primavera, for example, [What… you’ve never heard of it?] it is not by whim or accident that the carrots are cut to THAT exact size, or why they go into the water 10 minutes beforethe broccoli florets.
She chose to drive to Loveland via Highway 287 rather than I-25 the other day for the very good reason that Google alerted her to a possible tie-up on the interstate.
For the long-term health of our marriage, it is a really good thing she is wired this way. That’s because – as you might have guessed by now – I am sort of wired with the opposite polarity. “Oh, I don’t know… no reason,” is the phrase that most often comes out of my mouth when Joan asks why I chose THAT particular shirt to wear, or why I am using THAT tool to pull weeds from the yard.
Having a reason for the things one does is smart and commendable. And even though I only sporadically engage in this practice, I highly recommend it…
… except, that is, when it comes to the subject of love.
And to be clear, I am talking here about the selfless, unconditional, Christ-like, agape kind of love when I say this. Romantic-style love usually proceeds on a whole host of reasons… some rational, others not so much.
In the 22nd chapter of Matthew’s gospel, we find Jesus engaged in a street-corner debate with a lawyer. Eager to match wits with this up-and-coming rabbi, the lawyer poses this question: “Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?” (Matthew 22:36, NRSV). Knowing that there were 613 laws to choose from, this hot-shot thought he had really painted Jesus into a corner.
As usual though, Jesus quiets the questioner and the crowd with a simple, straightforward response. He answers the lawyer by saying, “Love God, and love your neighbor. Everything else is window dressing ” Or words to that effect.
For me, the really revolutionary part of this response is the two words Jesus does NOT include in his answer.
Jesus’ answer does NOT include the words, “So that…”
In other words, he did not say, “Love your neighbor SO THAT the other guy will thank you.”
He didn’t say, “Love your neighbor SO THAT they will ‘owe you one’ and love you back.”
He didn’t say, “Love your neighbor SO THAT the crime rate in your neighborhood will go down.”
Heck… he didn’t even say, “Love your neighbor SO THAT she will join your church.”
There were, however, two other words that came after the word “neighbor.” He said, “LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.”
Wow! Wild. Radical. Revolutionary. Necessary.
Of course, if anyone had asked Jesus to explain WHY we should love our neighbor, he probably would not have said, “Oh I don’t know… no reason.”
He probably would have said something like, “Because your Father told you to!”
It is indeed wildly radical to love our neighbors as we love ourselves. The scary [maybe, dangerous] thing, though, is that many of us don’t even love ourselves.